As the first child, firstborns are given undivided attention. Daddy and mummy are there to guide their every step, coach them to perfect their speech and repeat melodies to catch that perfect pitch.
When Verity came along, we would ask him to give in to her, to be a good example as she would follow his ways
I wonder if Cavan feels any pressure.
Clem says I'm stricter with Cavan. Though I beg to differ. I thought I scolded Verity more. I smack her more. Because Verity is more rebellious and stubborn.
Maybe Clem is right. Verity can get away with most wrongdoing. Because she is as stubborn as a mule. Doesn't help that she has such a cute and innocent face. And i get tired of fighting with her. (Such irony. Since when I get tired of fighting. Must be age.)
For Cavan, when he doesn't obey the first time, I get mad. Because he's so obedient and willing to please. I guess I can't accept it when he doesn't listen the first time.
One night before bedtime,
Me: Children, go and brush your teeth.
(no response)
Me: (raising my voice) Children, go and brush your teeth!
Verity: I don't want!
Me: Cavan, go and brush your teeth.
Cavan: Verity doesn't want to brush her teeth, I also...
Suddenly, he stopped and caught himself. Then he continued.
Cavan:... I will still go and brush my teeth. I will be a good example.
I was surprised by the response. I totally didn't expect it from a five-year-old child.
Of course, I praised him to no end. I'm so proud of him for doing the right thing. I don't know this is because he is aware of his "responsibilities" as the oldest child. Or simply because he's such a pleaser.
One thing I know is, Cavan is a such a perfect son. The kind of son I've always wanted.
I'm so honoured to be chosen to be his mother. It's my blessing he is chosen to be my firstborn.
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